Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Im so excited!

Hey everyone. Its been a long weekend and I apologize if some of you may feel ignored by me. I have spent very long hours editing a book that has now been published. Its an eBook and I have a site set up. The book is amazing. It has some great information that each and everyone of you will find useful.

Please go to this site and check out the book! Feedback is more than welcome, and for most of you, its expected. Ha ha.


At the bottom of the page, after clicking on the link, there is information about how to purchase this book.
I will write more soon!! :)

Love~ Heather Dewitt-Oenning

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Interesting Words of Wisdom

Here are some quotes that I came across. I figured I would share them with everyone.

"Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change." (I would say this usually happens with friends).

"The best mind-altering drug is truth."

"If you are not part of the cure, then you are part of the problem."

"Many wise words are spoken in jest, but they don’t compare with the number of stupid words spoken in earnest."

"You can choose to be happy or sad and whichever you choose that is what you get. No one is really responsible to make someone else happy, no matter what most people have been taught and accept as true."

"Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart."

"Light travels faster than sound, thats why some people appear smart until you hear them speak."

"You spend your whole life thinking your on the right track, only to find out your on the wrong train." (my life a little while back)

"Nothing shows a man’s character more than what he laughs at." (Hey Mike.....haha)

"Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment."

"Right actions in the future are the best apologies for bad actions in the past."

"In order to be someone, you must first be yourself."

"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much."

"The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention."

My thoughts get the best of me

God tends to lead us down many paths, however, he gives us free will. I know I have learned from the choices that I have made. I have met some new people, have a few of the old friends that I've always had, realized people are never really who they appear to be, good fruit comes from good trees (a verse easily said, however, not easily remembered), family isn't always there for you, and sometimes they never were. This is a harsh concept to acknowledge.

Life is a continuous journey.
The human race is not perfect, nor are we supposed to be. Time does tend to change a multitude of things, however, too much time can change the rest of our lives.

The most important things in life do actually come free, not from selfishness though. Love is not love unless its shared. This is actually correct. You cannot receive love if its not given to you. One cannot also just give love and never learn how to receive it. It creates dilemmas.

The past is the past, however, if you don't work through your past, then it becomes your future.

One's actions does actually define them as a person. Whether a person is confused, sad, happy, and whatever other emotion an individual goes through, its important to not act on every little emotion.

Being kind is the first step. One cannot always just say exactly what their thinking to the majority. One always must paraphrase to prevent anyone from getting hurt.

Do not harm or be harmful to another. Do not lie. Lies are harmful. This, too, is an easy concept to understand and it makes sense, however, its not easy to follow through with this.

When you practice being kind, then you become kind. When you practice being silent and not opening your mouth to offer your "not-so" needed opinion every time, then you become silent.

Please do not misunderstand what I'm saying. Its okay to offer your opinion, and normally whenever you deem it necessary, just make sure its valid. Do not argue with others. Its pointless and takes up a lot of time, wasted time.

Listening instead of talking is very important. You can really get to know how people are if you just listen. You can also learn new and interesting things that you may not have known.

Listen to your children when they want to tell you what they have learned, how they are feeling, their outlook on the world, or a website they have discovered while surfing the net, etc.

You may even get to know the little person that is in your child. You may be able to help your child/children become better people. God knows, society could always use a little help in that area.

I have been practicing these things in my own every day life. Of course, I mess it up, who wouldn't? I admit that I'm not perfect, nor anywhere near that.

Improving yourself takes time. And its well worth the time that it takes. We were given a lifetime for this, so who wouldn't have the time to do it?

I have noticed a lot of individuals on the Internet whom blog, whether it be yahoo, msn, blogspot, twitter, myspace, etc. particularly use their blog spots to "bash" people. They use their time for creating followers.

Follow or To Follow is defined as "emulate; to accept as a guide or leader." With that being said, the "bashing" creates followers. Followers then add the same kind of opinion that the "leader" has chosen.

The leader and the followers proceed to "join" together "bashing" an individual whom they don't even know, yet will say harsh things regarding an individual. And so on........ It becomes a vicious cycle. Then it is out of control. And is not stopped until the next "bashing" session. And there continues to be more. And so on.......

What would happen if blogs were written in the positive context? People do not want to read your blog, nor do they have a comment.

An old saying, "Ignorance is bliss," should always be remembered.

History continues to repeat itself; people will rarely stay positive, and rarely learn from their mistakes.

Would it be so complicated for everyone to get along?
To keep thoughts sometimes to themselves?
To not post a variety of negativity all over the Internet?
To work through issues together and not include the majority of the population on the Internet?

And to stop and think, our children, our next generation, the ones whom will take over where we leave off, are reading all of our negativity.

Great job to all the adults, we've really shown our children how to respond to situations and to be kind, loving, patient, and giving. We are excellent role models!

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Thursday, January 22, 2009


My 11 year old daughter found this amazing website: http://www.clubtuki.com/ Its a great way for parents to interact with their children, as well as, kid safe.

The games are amazing. The website also has educational games for children. I did not have to worry about my daughter surfing the net. Thank God someone finally designed a site just for children!! Its about time.

Club Tuki also has a free trial membership!! The cost is very cheap regardless. Im thrilled about it being less than $6.00 a month.

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Do you know what your children are doing?

Lately I have been doing research on children and the internet. It has become a major concern of mine. I cannot believe that more people out there are not worried about what their children are doing. I have searched some myspace profiles and find it amazing that these little girls have a myspace page, saying they are 17 years old and have profanity and older male friends on their friends lists. What are their parents doing? They are just babies. With that being said, I became more interested in how the world felt about children using the internet. I found this amazing site www.kidsafe.com. It has alot of great information regarding children and internet safety. Does everyone really know what their children are looking at on the internet? Being a parent, obviously protecting children has been and will always be a passion of mine. Children are innocent, angel-like beings, and need to be protected at all times. This includes school. I could hardly believe that Virginia is the ONLY state that has mandated Internet Safety Education. They have added this to their curriculum. I am curious to know why it is that no other state has this??? Does anyone else wonder? Does anyone even care? After reading this, any and all comments would be appreciated.
Here is the article I came across. I did not copy the entire article, however, it can be found at http://kidsafe.com/cybersafety-report-released-wheres-the-outrage

“Everyone in the industry agrees that there is no fool-proof technology that 100% protects minors from inappropriate content, predators and cyber-bullying online,” says Greg Writer, CEO of the Children’s Educational Network. “However, parents and children have access to tools and educational content that creates a safer browsing experience on the Web. As a society we need to take charge and motivate children to become empowered and informed Internet citizens. Education is the solution. We need to take a page from the State of Virginia’s book and enact legislation that will implement mandatory Internet safety curriculum in schools nationwide.”
So far, only the State of Virginia has mandated Internet Safety Education into their curriculum and only Children’s Educational Network provides technology along with parent and child education. Where is the outrage? Educate to protect, that’s the solution! That’s what this study says without saying it, and without mandating it".